Asking goes a long way down

How long have you not ask for anything? How long?

Erm...ermmm...

Let me ask you, did you give advise to people?

I sure did, maybe when I know I was of any help.

Then let me ask you again? Have you actually ask for help when you need it real bad?

I will like to say yes, for some stuff. But when it comes to problem that involve about my feeling, I didn't. Because I am afraid to ask.

Why are you afraid? Fear of? It not like they will bite?

They sure won't, but maybe it's just me. Afraid to speak my mind, afraid they will say NO.

Let me tell you, in life you have to fight for your right, for yourself do you not know. Let me tell you a story, maybe that will make you more at ease. Here goes...


There was this girl; she was shy, but always kind and helpful, even to stranger. Always ready to lend a helping hand, a listening ear. But she is always afraid to ask for help. She didn't really care as each time she helped others she felt happy. But nobody knows what she has been through when she needed help, not because they don't care, but because she never spoke. One day she was fixing her house roof alone, then suddenly a wind blew and her ladder fell. She was stuck, stuck on top of her house. She didn't want to ask for help, because she was afraid. She tried to climb down all by herself. A passerby saw, he ran toward her but it was too late. She fell. By the time the passerby reached, she was in a brink of death.

The passerby say: "Why didn't you ask for help?"

She say: "Because I was afraid to be rejected, afraid to let other know how weak I am."

The passerby reply: "Asking for help doesn't mean you are weak, It just mean you are just not good in it, don't be confuse with weak and not good. They do sound the same but then it mean totally 2 different thing, being weak mean useless and stuff, but being not good mean you are just not strong in that particular stuff. No one is perfect; no one can do everything or anything alone. They all needed help some way or another. There is nothing to be afraid of, yes some may reject you but it doesn't mean everyone will reject you. Even if they reject you, it doesn't mean they hate you or they didn't want to help you, but it's just that they know they don't have the ability to do the job. I am sure someone will help you. Don't be afraid to ask, NO are hurtful I promise you, but it's also a stepping stone to success, you can ask many successful people, do they met with reject and failure. I bet they do. Sometime if no one want to help you, you can always try to do it yourself and learn, when someone see that, they will know you have tried and lend you a hand when they know it's a task you alone cannot handle. But you have to ask, if you never ask, you never know right? Only after you have ask then you will know the answer, be it a YES or a NO there is still 50% chance, but if you never ask it will be a 100% NO. A friend in need is a friend indeed right!! At least there is still 50% chance right?"

After hearing it, the girl pass away, but she finally realize what she must do. Now she knows and want to share her experience with you.

"Don't be afraid to ask, cause if you never ask, you never get the answer you want."

After hearing her story, I think you have learn a valuable lesson don't you. Learn to ask because if you never ask you never know. Your life is yours, you have to fight for what you want, never be afraid to ask, you never know that a small gesture that someone did will bring you closer to what you want or making your life more meaningful.

You reap what you sow

Life itself tells secret, many secret. After many years of going through my life, from a kid to a teenager, what have I lost and what have I gain? Today I watch a show that teaching me this, you reap what you sow.

Then I ask myself how long have you done a good deed?

I started to feel cold.

Then I ask again, have you done anything that you feel was wrong?

Many minor one, I look down in shame.

Then you deserve to be in this sorrowful state.

Why? There are many bad guy out there why me?

NONONO, you are you and they are they. Those you cannot compare.

Then tell me what must I do?

You should know, start by doing a little kindness, it will go a long way in life. Even things like pressing the lift door, which you seldom do nowadays. I am you and thus I know your secret, but I shall take it as you are immature at that time. Been misguided by your thought, everyone make mistake, so do you. Now I give you a 2nd chance, you may not do bad stuff like killing or what, but you still did some bad stuff. It’s minor, but still it's bad. Life go a long way down, who know this minor thing will become something so big you cannot control. Do what is good, do what is right. Remember you reap what you sow.

I understand, but can my past mistake be forgiven?

You can't, but you can always mend thing back by doing good. Do you recall, the happy go lucky personality of yours when you were young, so carefree, thus you always are been shovel by luck. Now I don't see that in you, you become someone so deep thinking. Someone who gave a 2nd thought even about minor stuff. Someone who has a heart of jealous, someone who think before you give, someone who is never really happy for others when they has better stuff then you. You know what I mean. Where have the YOU I know gone to? Are you still there? I know you are. If not I won't be here, I know you wanted to repent your mistake but do you know what to do?

Yes I know, Must always have a heart to help others, no reward, no fear, no worry if they become better than you. Be happy for what other has achieve, cause that got it by effort, you may say is luck, but what goes by come around, they may got it because of something else they did. And of course never become jealous of others, if they are better than you, just admit it. No point getting jealous, what you should do is learn from them.

You have grown I would say, remember this, keep this in mind “you reap what you sow”. With a bad mind, a bad heart will only bring you bad luck. But been good doesn't mean you will get good luck, remember no reward, you helped because you wanted to make others happy. I do not wish to see you ever become someone bad, because the YOU I knew are not.